It’s Time to Get Savage
It’s a classic argument, a tale as old as time. The dilemma we’re faced with over and over and over in our lives. To either take a stand for ourselves, be bold and try something new, or stay as we are, stay stagnant, stay “safe”.
The need for safety is primal. It drives all of us. It’s rooted deep down in our psyche as NECESSARY. But being the complex and fickle creatures we are, there’s also this flicker of wanting MORE. Needing more stimuli. Needing to develop, learn, evolve and grow. The inner battle between these two urges can be quiet, or loud.
When you feel that need to grow turning from whispers to screams, well… Now shit’s getting real. Do you take a chance, even when your friends, your partner, your family are telling you you’re insane?
I have some uncomfortable news: GREATNESS lies on the other side of that fear. Your ego (and your friends/fam/loved ones) are trying to keep you safe. They don’t want you to get hurt, have your time wasted, or make a fool of yourself.
In Germany, we have a word for this. It’s called “fremdschämen”. It means vivacious embarrassment, being embarrassed on behalf of someone else. Basically, when something happens to someone else and you find it totally cringeworthy, and even though it’s not happening to YOU, you can barely stand to watch. That’s what your friends/loved ones/ego are trying to save you from.
BUT, if those whispers turn to screams and can’t be ignored, you’re at the crossroads where there’s more to lose if you DON’T get bold and do the thing.
This requires that you have FAITH in yourself and in the fact that transformation is possible.
Fear isn’t fun, of course. But what’s scarier - the exhilarating rush of trying a new way - much easier with someone on your side helping + supporting you at every step...
(Someone like, oh, I don’t know, A professional, certified, passionate empowerment coach, for example?)
... or staying the same? Everything remaining as it is, the cycle on constant repeat - the same fights, the same anxiety, the same disappointment, same depression, same feeling when you wake up every day, dreading what’s to come, over and over, month after month - or possibly getting even worse over time?
OMG what if it gets worse???
THAT is actually scarier than anything.
I’d choose the first fear, of taking a chance on myself and believing success through evolution is possible, every. time. That’s the great thing about being at rock bottom - there’s nothing left to lose and the only way is up.
We all have the capacity to learn new skills, try new things, think new thoughts, start over, reinvent ourselves, design the reality we want, EVERY DAY. This can happen any time, just flipping on a light switch. We just have to CHOOSE and then take 1 step in that direction. Move the needle forward just a little bit, every day, toward the life we want, the person we want to be, the feelings we want to have.
You might even be thinking - Yea, everyone has the ability to learn new skills, develop themselves, learn more and succeed - everyone but me. I am so sad, I’m so lost, I’m so numb, there’s no way this is possible for me. This is for everyone BUT me.
Annnnd this is where my protective, know-it-all Big Sis energy is activated because - and listen to me now - NO. THAT IS NOT TRUE. I’ve been low. REALLY LOW. SO F*CKING LOW I would have been cool with falling out of window by accident, my only concern being if I’d actually be relieved of this burden called “life” or if I’d just be horrible maimed and things would somehow be even worse.
I’ve been there, sister friend. There just comes a point where you have to turn into a savage and fight for yourself. Tune the rest out. Focus on you. What’s the 1 thing you can do today for YOU? Get into survival mode. Savage mode. Fight for yourself like your life depends on it. Believe in YOU. Believe in CHANGE. Imagine if you had 10% more power than you do right this moment and what you could do with that.
Start there.
And for GOD’S SAKE. If you need me to slap you around with a serious pep talk and give you some FEEL STRONGER RIGHT NOW TIPS, just reach out! No strings. I’m here for you.
xo,