Beating the Dead Horse that is Self-Care

This is the hill I will live and die on.

“Self care is not selfish!” is what I will be heard wailing into the night from now until the end of time. I believe this for many, many reasons. A few of them being:

1) The better shape you’re in, the better equipped you are to care for others.

2) The more often and more effectively you recharge your battery, the better your performance will be when you’re working. You’ll be using your whole ass, not your half-ass.

3) You teach others how to treat you based on how you treat yourself.

When you make time to say “Nah, I that movie looks cool, but I need to get a good, long sleep tonight,” or “Let’s definitely plan a play-date for the kids soon, but I just don’t have the energy for that this week.” you’re honouring your authentic feelings - a muscle that needs to be flexed regularly - and you’re also actually sending the signal to the person you're turning down that it’s also OK for THEM to say “no” to stuff. You’re creating a safe space for everyone to feel their feelings! How fucking beautiful is that?

It’s important to understand that whatever you’re doing or you want to be doing, it’s no less important than what someone else is doing or wants to do or wants you to do with them.

You can be as rigid or as flexible as you want, as kind or c*nty with your delivery as you choose - but the point is that YOU GET TO CHOOSE.

The more often you do this, the easier it’s going to get. People are mammals, in the end, and like all (most?) animals, mammals like structure. It’s like with children. When people know the rules, even if it’s a boundary or limitation on what they can get away with or access, it actually provides a sense of comfort. When lines are drawn, it frees up mental space for more creativity.

So you’re doing them and yourself a favour when you say “NEIN” to what you don’t want to do and make time for your own self care. ANOTHER WIN-WIN.

And you know I’m all about making sure you WIN.

I’m passionate about self-care and boundary-setting to the point of being obnoxious, so STAY TUNED because I’ve got another FREE training in the works taking you EVEN DEEPER to the DARK SIDE of setting boundaries.

Information on the practical steps is but one part. Info can be Googled. IMPLEMENTATION is what we need, and to implement, we’re going to need to crack open your beautiful brain and shake things up a bit.

Don’t worry, Big Sis is here to hold your hand. F*CKBOYS, KEVINS + KARENS beware. We’re tossing out that raggedy old rule book and brining in a glossy, shiny, new one. The rulebook of which YOU are the authoress.

xo,

Krista